Lets understand your nature.
We always talk about nature and comment on others’ nature —how some people are loud and some are reserved.
But what do we mean by nature?
When we say nature, we mean the personality of a person, and it’s a combination of both nature: traits which are inherited, we are like our father and mother, and nurture: traits influenced by environment and upbringing.
Studies estimate that genetics accounts for 30-60% of personality traits, but a major portion of it is influenced by environmental factors.
In psychology, there is this Big 5 personality model; 5 major traits defining the personality of a person.
So if we want to define any human being’s nature/ personality, rate them in these 5 categories on a scale of 10.
Openness to Experience - How open you are to experience new things. If you are open to experiencing many things, you might be around 10, and if you like your routine and don’t like exploring or trying different things, you might be around 2.
Conscientiousness - The quality of wishing to do one’s work or duty well and thoroughly. So if you are given any work, you do it diligently and with utmost honesty and take it as a responsibility, or just want to get it done with
Extraversion - a tendency to be energized by social interactions. From where do you draw your energy, through solitude or by being in public and a crowd? Do you thrive in social settings? Or you need me-time to recharge.
Neuroticism. -Tendency to have more negative thoughts and feelings. Do you have better emotional stability, or do you go into the swirl of your own negative thoughts more often?
Agreeableness - An agreeable person is someone considerate, helpful, and cooperative. Put other people’s needs before them and don’t like to fight.
Let’s deep dive into agreeable personality traits. Let’s see where you lie on the agreeableness scale
Answer these questions and try to rate yourself on a scale of 10. If your answer is more towards yes, rate yourself higher.
Q1. Do you hesitate in saying no to events or plans, or extra work, even if you dont want to?
Q2. Do you avoid conflict and FIGHTS? You play safe?
Q3. Do you adjust with other people very easily and take care of their needs before your own?
If your score is above 5 in these questions, then welcome to the group; you are a person who agrees.
People like people who don’t like to fight, who always say yes, who are adjusting and helpful.
Basically, people who agree.
Is it ok to be a highly agreeable person?
What is wrong with being agreeable?
And what we can do to change if we want to.
Yes, Personality/ Nature isn’t fixed; it evolves with life experiences and can be shaped by new choices and challenges. You can change your personality to a significant degree through conscious effort.
Let’s discuss it further in next week's newsletter.
Thank you for reading.
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